Monday, November 29, 2010

现在的我和以前的我
有很大的分别

很多以前不会出现在我身上的形容词
或觉得异想天开的事都在这几年来出现了,发生了

以前的我,很粗鲁;
现在的我,竟然被人说很斯文。

以前的我,抱着独身主义;
谁知道,我是朋友群中,算是蛮早婚的一个。

以前的我,工作至上,雄心勃勃;
现在的我,虽然事业心还是很重,但一切现以家庭唯尊。

以前看到姐姐们跑医院生孩子,描述几痛几痛,我都无法体会,觉得这离我很遥远,
现在的我,竟然是一个小男孩的妈。

以前的我,只会煮快熟面,
现在的我竟然会煮饭,做菜,煲汤,做面粉猓。

真的不可思议耶!

虽然如此,我还是觉得,我还是我。。。

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Bi-Anne, parents to go for mediation

“A three-man bench of the Court of Appeal led by Justice Datuk Wira Low Hop Bing fixed Dec 3 for Low Swee Siong and his ex-wife, London-based restaurant manager Tan Siew Siew, and their daughter Bi-Anne to be present in court for mediation before a single judge……
Justice Low, who was on the panel with Justices Datuk Wira Abu Samah Nordin and Datuk Mohd Hishamudin Mohd Yunus, told the parties that he would be the only judge sitting in the mediation session.
“I will still need to hear the child.
“She will be the star for that day and she must not be left unheard,” said Justice Low…….”

It is good to have this happened, finally and the voice of Bi-Anne be heard by everybody. Hopefully, the final judgment will be based on Bi-Anne’s wish.

Pray and hope for the BEST for Bi-Anne.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Sex attack cabbie jailed 82 years but only be behind bars for 14 years

“A taxi driver who called himself “Uncle” was jailed 14 years and ordered to be whipped five times for raping, attempting to rape and molesting seven underage girls.

He was sentenced to 82 years in jail but will only be behind bars for 14 years as the Ampang Sessions Court ordered that the sentences run concurrently from his date of arrest.”

What an insulting sentence?

Created so much pain to the girls and only behind bars for 14 years?

Don’t you think the sentence is too light for such a crime?

How can this deter people from committing such a crime?

You raped one girl, you will be jailed for certain years. You raped few girls, the sentence also will run concurrently…

Really sick to read this.

Sunday, November 21, 2010

无塑胶袋日

昨天跑了地不劳的Jusco一趟,恰巧遇到它们的无塑胶袋日。

在女装部,顾客买了东西,职员便将货物装在一个像信封一样的纸皮封里,然后,用夹书器将袋袋订起来,再贴上它们惯用的sticker。

在超级市场里,没有提供纸皮封服务,因为不make sense。所以付钱时,职员将每一样你买的东西都贴上它们的sticker。你买十样,她贴十张,你买二十样,她贴二十张。。。。

无塑胶袋日,是提倡环保意识,但,看到以上情况我觉得有一点弄巧成拙勒。

我不是十分尽责的环保份子,但,一路来都会尽量为环保尽一点棉力。在超市还没真正禁塑胶袋时,如果可能我都不拿塑胶袋了;家里用完的瓶啊,罐啊,盒啊,我都会留着,待慈善机构来领取,让他们拿去环保中心换钱。

在女装部,纸皮封没错是可以装东西,但,不方便,因为没有手环;而且在这里职员也需要另外用夹书器将纸封订起来,浪费多一种资源;再来就是因为步骤多了,变成排队时间更长了。=(

也许卖衣服的商家们,可以学习Isetan一样,用有手环的纸袋,那不是更方便,环保,有效率吗?

在超级市场里,你不觉得用sticker更不环保吗?也许用像Tesco一样的bio-degradable bag会好一点吗?这一点,我还在思考,所以没能提供更好的建议。

还有,环保其实是一种意识,要推广,就需要灌输群众相关知识。
昨天,我看到一班阿姨们,在Jusco拿不到塑胶袋,就跑去紫馨(Lavender)拿了更多
小纸袋(装面包的)装她们的物品,那,又是怎么的呢?要如何杜绝呢?

Friday, November 19, 2010

Joint Account

Read from a magazine mentioned that joint accounts will always create problem to the relationship if we did not handle it properly. In this case, most of the time both will hold ATM cards and can make withdrawal independantly.

After reading, I have an urge to share with my friends and readers how my husband and myself dealing with this.

Both hubby and I are working. We have our independent and individual banking accounts. Meanwhile, we also have maintained one joint account. This account was open since both of us started work and is meant for our saving to purchase our mansion and other big ticket items. Remember when we was young, every month when we banked in our money into the account, we will tease each other: “Hmm.. this will allow us to buy a brick.” “Hmm.. another piece of bricks” “Hmm.. this money is enough for us to buy the bedroom door.” … and the list goes on.

After we formed a family and moved to our own home. We have taken a mortgage loan from a foreign bank whereas we can save a portion of monthly interest if we have cash in the account. We have moved most of our other saving to this account. We use this account for our joint saving, for our personal saving as well as for Voei Ton’s saving. The account is mainly maintained by me and I keep a spreadsheet to trace how much money is belong to US, how much belongs to HIM, how much belongs to ME, how much belongs to VT. As for VT, we will pay him saving interest at the end of the year from OUR saving account to compensate the poor little kid. Hehe…Once in a while, I will automatically report to hubby the movement of the account.

Year over year, we use our saving to pay for part of our wedding expenses, we use our saving to pay part of our house deposits and renovation cost, we also use part of our saving to pay part of our “family car” initial deposits. The withdrawal from the account needs to be approved by both parties.

It’s fun to have both of us working towards the same goal. We banked in a pre-agreed fixed sum of amount from our salary into the joint account every month. As for extra fortune like bonus, it will depend on how much the recipient wants to contribute.

It’s great to see the amount building up slowly, cent by cent, ringgit by ringgit.

It’s a strong bonding, trust, commitment, love reflected through the joint account.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

记得当年没有女佣时

没有女佣时,两公婆齐心协力分工合作做家务。

星期一三五晚上,洗衣晒衣;
星期二四六晚上,收衣折衣;
星期天烫衣服。
衣服统统丢进洗衣机里,
然后两公婆一边聊天嘻哈,一边做。

老婆扫地,老公抹地。

老婆煮饭,老公洗碗碟。

老婆抹窗,老公洗厕所。

公做一点,婆做一点,日子也过得其乐无穷。

Sunday, November 14, 2010

关于玮栋

这一篇是我不久前在飞机上趁着空档笔录下来的。

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想起今天下午读了Heidi的部落格。她分享了萱萱从出世到现在两岁四个月的成长过程。脑海里出现的是一幕幕玮栋从出世到现在二十个月的点滴。嗯!等吧!等玮栋两岁时,我也许也会与你们一起分享玮栋从出世到现在的照片。

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玮栋现在懂得蛮多的,尤其是要求。时常“I want。。。”“I want。。。”的,而且还懂得用哭这一招。但,放心啦!我们并没有因为他哭而妥协啦!

现在的他已懂得了one,two,three到ten。只是每一回数的时候,都会吃掉eight。常从seven跳去nine,然后数到ten时,就喊yeah,然后拍拍手。

玮栋一直都很喜欢purple恐龙(我和老公的暗语,即Barney啦!),最近也迷上了儿歌。常常要爷爷嬷嬷开收音机或电视机给他听。一打开儿歌,他就坐在地上很专注,很入神的听/看。他最近会唱Twinkle Twinkle Little Star,Baa Baa Black Sheep,还有Birthday Song。虽然不是很完整,但,我也很满足,觉得他很棒了。最令我吃惊的是,他竟然会唱“妹妹背着洋娃娃”。这首歌是我从他出世到现在每晚必唱的儿歌,因为这一首歌对我也很有意义,它是我小时候妈妈买给我的第一个卡带里的第一首歌。

玮栋也越来越“爹”了。他很爱我像婴儿般抱着他,边抱边说:“宝贝,妈咪 sayang哦!”又或者当他野蛮时(通常在夜晚),就要妈咪边抱边摇边唱童谣给他听,直到他熟睡为止。有时候,还要我站着摇,我一坐下,他就一直叫:“妈咪stand up,妈咪stand up。”直到我站起来为止。现在我终于知道,为什么许多妈咪的手臂会变大了,呵呵!老公常因此说我宠坏孩子,我却觉得现在不抱,几时要抱呢?

从玮栋出世到现在,我都尽可能陪在他身旁直到他入睡为止,因为我觉得与他在一起的时间真的少得可怜。早上,他喝奶冲凉穿衣都是由老公一手包办,然后我只有十五分钟车程到家公家婆家的时候,陪他说话。晚上,到家公家婆家直到他入睡时间,就只有区区的两小时半的相处时间,这就是工作妈咪的悲哀。现在的他,很喜欢躺在妈咪的胸膛上入睡,虽然重重的他有时候会压得我透不过气来,但,我还是很享受这一种暖暖的,甜甜的感觉。

玮栋现在也很调皮,很爱捣蛋。例如,走超市时,他会故意将架子上的东西拿起来放在地上,然后指着自己说:“naughty boy!”又或者他会将玩具故意地丢在地上,然后又指着自己说:“naughty boy!”现在我和老公决定改变策略,尽量减少使用负面词,常告诉他:“good boy,good boy!” 哈哈! 希望有效吧!

这几天,玮栋都惹得我们两公婆笑弯了腰。昨天,我们让他数他的小飞机,他数完后就叫我们:“daddy mummy clap hand。。。yeah!”然后自己就猛拍手。

接下来就是话说我不在家的时候,玮栋拿了一个麦当劳玩具的一部分(坏了的)给爸爸,问爸爸:“What is this?”爸爸就随便回答:“爸爸don't know。”这小瓜天真的以为这东西叫“爸爸don't know。”哈哈!现在他一看到那东西,他就会念念有词的说“爸爸don't know。”搞得爸爸又气又好笑。

今天呢,冲凉后,我将梳子递给玮栋,他梳完后,竟然说了一声:“handsome”哇!笑死人了!

这,就是我的宝贝玮栋了! =)

Monday, November 8, 2010

再来一个?

你想做的事未必是应该做的事,

应该做的事未必是你能力范围里的事。

一直在深思什么时候再给玮栋添一个弟弟或妹妹比较好。。。

只是问题从来没有一个明确的方向。

太多事情需要考量了。

玮栋才刚懂事,日子才刚刚开始容易过一点,难道又要重新开始育儿生活?又要半夜起床喂奶,又要带很多很多东西出外?又要等多一两年,才可逍遥的地出外旅行?

谁顾初生宝宝?家婆曾经放话说,若我们再生多一个宝宝,她不帮我们顾了,必须在外头找保姆。我对老公说,找保姆可以,只是到时候我们也许就没本事再多养一个女佣了。老公同意。对老公说,我们计划之前,最好再向两老问取他们的意愿,老公说,没必要,难道说,他们不愿意顾,我们就不再生?

财务呢?我们负担得来吗?奶粉,pampers,玮栋学费。。。就让他天生天养吧!没什么是不能的!

时间?何时是对的时间,女佣回家之前,还是。。。要年头,年中,还是年尾?

什么时候,日子变得那么的刻板,连生孩子也要长篇大论的?

你怎么说?

Saturday, November 6, 2010

领悟

这个星期,我领悟了一些我一向来所忽略的事。

对于老一辈的下属,真的不可掉以轻心。虽然你已觉得自己很客气了,但,别人却不这么认为。

别多管闲事,别人的事,最好不要插嘴,以免加剧情况。

事情有两面。你觉得这个下属工作态度很差,原来她在别人眼中并不是差,而是很小孩子气。但,就算如此,我也真的接受不了。。。

Monday, November 1, 2010

CCP 考试

要考试了。考CCP最后一张文凭试。

星期六上了第一天课,公司提供的复习课。情绪掉入谷底,完全没有信心。一切一切似乎很陌生,后悔去年没有打铁趁热,考过了前两张文凭,没有继续冲刺,而是延后到今年的现在才考这最后一张文凭。

更糟糕的是,在机缘巧合之下,去到了天后宫,让天后娘娘指点考试结果,结果是不堪入眼,肥佬即也!

知道自己的不足,知道运气不在我这一边,知道没有天掉下来的惊喜,只有希望自己可以很有规律的加把劲去温习,希望可以扭转乾坤。

很压力,很压力,压力到晚上梦见自己因为过渡压力而引发了痘痘山爆发,满脸痘痘,吓死人了!真的吓死人了!

还好接下来的两天复习课,慢慢地看见了一点点曙光,希望可以一天比一天进步。

祝福我吧!