Wednesday, June 29, 2011

陪月2

昨天,拨了一通由朋友的朋友介绍的陪月阿姨电话。
电话接通后,战战兢兢地问阿姨还有替人做陪月吗?
阿姨很爽快说有,然后问我预产期及时,告诉了她是十二月初,阿姨爽快的说,ok,还没接到客人。
心里暗喜,我很少做事可以那么顺利,不用一波三折。。。
后来,阿姨问了一句,你住柔佛还是新加坡?原以为这只是一个普通问题,哪知道,阿姨一得知我住在柔佛时,就很坦白说,哦!我不能接你,我要接新加坡客。。。

哇!晕倒!好吧!不要阻碍别人赚新币!就知道,事情没那么地顺利,唯有再不停地找咯!

朋友,如有什么好介绍,请帮帮忙哦!呵呵!

Sunday, June 26, 2011

心情

自从得知我怀孕开始,家婆接二连三地,有事没事地进出医院,搞得大家都筋疲力竭。尤其是这两个星期,家婆因喉咙不舒服,一星期去了专科两次,过后,更因为乱想,患得失眠症。因为失眠,身体里的火气就上升,发烧37C,就一直投诉整身痛。家公,老公和医生没法子,依她要求让她再次进院住几天。

虽然每一次,都告诉自己要看开一点,但,不知是否是怀孕荷而蒙的关系,心情一直很低落,感觉很不平衡,很不开心。就算和老公谈了,也于事无补,有时候会觉得很委屈,无缘无故地会掉下眼泪,心里酸酸地。

与一个老同事谈天,他提了一句:“告诉老人家,生活要数福气,别叹气!”这一句话,如棒头喝,一棒把我敲醒。这句话,不该只是告诉老人家,也该告诉自己啊!

我很有福气啊,我有妈咪,姐妹,老公,孩子,好友一群群的关心。那一点不顺遂的事,算的了什么呢?毕竟,这也不是第一次发生啊!

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住了医院三天,家婆星期三出院了,看到她情况似乎稳定了,日常作息也恢复了,星期五,就心血来潮地在下午传短信问老公,今晚要不要来个二人晚餐约会。

其实发了短信的我,并不抱任何希望,因为老公是个很实际的人,他永远不会做last minutes的事,他铁钉会告诉我,下星期吧,今天没跟父母说好,他们应该有煮我们的晚餐,不太好啦!

谁知道,这一次,老公让我跌破了眼镜,他竟回短信告诉我OK,没问题,只是问我有没有告诉父母。我回短信说:“媳妇是外人,不方便告知那么重要的讯息。放心,吃饱了,就回家,告诉老人家我们不会太迟带玮栋回家。"

之后老公拨电话来,告知一切搞定了,谈好了地点,就承诺他我今天一定会准时下班。

谈妥一切,我不知为何,心情开始紧张,就好像刚开始与情人约会一样,心如鹿撞地,啥是好笑。放工后,就以最快的速度前往约会地点,希望不会让老公久等。

那一天,我们去了Stone Grill,一间玮栋还不适合去的餐厅。食物是其次,两人重温旧情,然后可以心无旁骛地畅所欲言,无所不谈,才是重点。

这一天虽平凡,但,我却感到很充实,感动。物以稀为贵啊!


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我们的约会不懂是不是刺激到了家婆,她,今天又投诉整身痛,又去专科报到了。
我无言,只能以很同情的眼神给予老公,再在他身边默默地支持他。

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

陪月

在柔佛,我人生地不熟,朋友不多,华人同事也寥寥可数。
想找个陪月,简直难如登天。

第一个陪月,又老公朋友介绍,但,效果不是很满意,所以这一次必须重新下功夫,令找一个。

读过很多论坛,看到蛮多推荐,如今也有许多孝子孝女替陪月妈咪登广告,但,心里七上八下,论坛的陪月可信吗?

我算是恐龙时代的女人,虽会操作部落格,但,论坛的术语一窍不通,如:MM,PM是什么,我都不懂。想要想作者询问更多详情,都无从下手。

朋友们,你们有什么陪月可介绍吗?是否可以给我关于论坛陪月小小的意见?感激不尽哦!

Saturday, June 18, 2011

心痛 我的宝贝

放假了两个星期,玮栋很期待,很兴奋地让我载着去学校。

到了学校门口,原本很兴奋地他,看到校门站着地不是他熟悉的老师,有点惊惶失措。而当那陌生老师开门时,他拒绝了,开始哽咽了,我对陌生老师说:“孩子不认识你,有点怕,他只认得他班级老师Ms. S。”陌生老师点点头,说会叫班级老师来带。

当我将车辆泊好时,老师也来了。她伸手要抱玮栋,他有些抗拒,老师对他说:“妈咪泊车,待会儿进来。”他,伸手将我搂紧紧地,给了我一个吻,才乖乖地跟着老师进教室。

我,去了他学校办公室处理好一些事务后,走到他班上看他。玮栋那时候,很乖,没哭没闹,坐在小椅子上,与其他小朋友玩积木。我看了,放下心头大石,安心地去上班。殊不知,我这一走,竟然酿了一个大错。

中午,拨电话给家公家婆,问他们第一天接玮栋放学,情况如何。家公竟然说:“玮栋啊!像被遗弃地小孩,闷闷不乐地与小朋友坐在一起!叫了他的名字几次,都没察觉,似乎在想些什么似的。老师说,玮栋上课上到一半,问老师,为什么妈妈泊车泊那么就没来?然后就很委屈地哭了,老师哄他骗他了一会儿才让他停止哭泣。”

听了家公一番话,我才惊觉我犯了错误,欺骗孩子,我没有守信用回他班级找他,好好地与他道再见。我,怎么办?该怎样弥补我的过失?

晚上回到家,宝贝若无其事地,看到我,照旧地搂我亲我,使我更感愧疚。问他在学校happy吗?他答happy。我答应他,明天会亲自带他进班,他点头。

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星期二早上,我告诉玮栋:“玮栋go school,妈咪go work!”他摇头说:“玮栋go school,妈咪go school!”告诉他:“妈咪need to go work work!”他说:“Don't want 妈咪go work work!”

到了学校,泊好车,我亲自带玮栋进班级。那天是游泳日,所以所有小孩都集合在一起,听校长训话。告诉玮栋,妈咪要走了,他不依,将我抱紧紧地。没法,与他站在一起,尽量哄他。

进班级的时候,他拉着我的手,要我一起进去,我说不能呀,就转移他的注意力,要他帮忙老师将自己的书包水壶放好。玮栋是个乖孩子,他听妈咪的话,照做。妈咪趁他没看见,又躲到了一边,偷窥他。

他放好书包水壶,转头找妈咪,看不见妈咪,开始大哭,嘴里嚷着:“I want to beat mummy!beat mummy!”老师哄他,给他各式各样的玩具,都不得要领。玮栋像爸爸妈妈,是个固执的孩子,有股牛脾气。后来,哭了很久,老师也没办法哄他停下,这时候,其他两个孩子似乎给玮栋传染了,也放声大哭。我没法,又不敢出现,唯有委托另一班的老师,告诉玮栋班级老师,玮栋爱洗手。

果然,老师一带他洗手,他就停止哭了。看到事情告了一段落,已将近迟到上班地我,才匆匆忙忙地赶回公司。

中午,拨电话给玮栋,他静静地。当我一告诉他:“妈咪work work!Come back hug hug 玮栋。”他开始哽咽,似乎这一句话,刺痛了他的心。他开始哭,开始喊叫:“I want to beat mummy!beat mummy!”。。。同样的一句话,重复了很多次,同时间,他也喊着:“I want 妈咪抱抱。。。I want 妈咪抱抱。。。”家婆怎样哄他,他也不依,还在歇斯底里的喊叫,似乎在宣泄他心中的痛。

在电话另一端的我,听得心也碎了,巴不得可以立刻回家抱他,亲他,让他感受妈咪对他的爱。

晚上,一千号告诉我,玮栋整个下午都告诉她,要妈咪抱抱。我的心,真的好痛好痛。打算明天去学校,与老师谈谈,是否可以再来一个orientation,让妈咪陪孩子在学校一个星期,让他再尝试适应。

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星期三,告诉玮栋同样的话,他也回复了同样的话。“妈咪 go work work!”“I want to beat mummy!beat mummy!”

没法,硬着头皮,带他去学校。到了学校门口,班级老师伸手要抱他,他整个人跳到我身上,手里握着驾驶盘,嚷着:“Don't want go school! Want follow mummy!”上网读过,要让孩子适应,就要坚决,就硬着心肠,让老师抱他进去。

他喊,他叫,我黯然,我痛。

泊车后,找到了校长,与她谈了良久,她也给了我这个新手妈咪许多宝贵的意见,在这段期间,怎样帮助孩子。

过后,当我们一起走去玮栋班看他时,他已停止哭泣了,正在与其他小朋友玩。

我带着七味杂陈的心情上班,心里不断地思考校长的一番话。

中午,拨电话给玮栋,他睡了,与家婆聊了一下。家婆说,玮栋放学时,还是闷闷不乐的。一走出学校,就寻找妈咪的车,要坐妈咪的车。家婆告诉他妈咪做工,玮栋就说I want go to mummy's office。家婆说,不可以,妈咪做工,玮栋说I want go back A.H(我们的家), don't want to go S.I(家公家婆家)。嘴巴里一直重复这几句话,一直到家为止。

孩子啊!孩子!妈咪该怎么做,才能让你不那么黏妈咪呢?

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星期四早上,我最害怕担心的恶梦开始了,玮栋开始告诉我们:“I don't want to go to school!”

我们哄啊,解释啊,他还是很坚决。后来,我问他:“You want mummy bring 玮栋go school or 爷爷?”他说:“I want 爷爷bring go school!” 这一次,像以往还没开学一样,我将玮栋带到了家公家婆家,告诉了家公玮栋的意愿。爷爷很开心,玮栋很开心。这是,我这一星期里,离开玮栋时,他最开心的日子。开心的亲我,挥手说再见。看得到爷爷慈爱地在抱着他,在他耳边轻声细语。。。

一路上,我心想,我做得对吗?爷爷可以搞得定玮栋吗?爷爷会不会过度保护孙子而给老师添麻烦?我,会不会很没用,将责任推给爷爷?

好不容易熬到了九点,就迫不急待地拨电话给家公询问当天孩子上课情况,家公很淡然的说:“嗯,没哭没闹!乖乖地进班!”哇,不可思议!还是爷爷厉害,那么说,问题是出现在我身上咯???

中午放学后,又赶紧拨电话给玮栋。他一开口就对我说:“玮栋go school!”问他:“happy or not?”他回答:“happy!”语气与前几天不同,显然地,他真的很开心。一千号告诉我,玮栋今天没哭,放学时也很开心,没有找妈咪了。拨电话向老师询问玮栋那天的进展,老师也说,今天玮栋没哭,还玩得很开心。

我听了,又喜又悲,喜的是孩子可以快乐上学,悲的是,孩子不再找妈咪了,真的复杂。

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星期五,玮栋同样的选择让爷爷带他上学,无论妈咪怎样要求,都不得要领。呵呵!
同样的,孩子很开心的上学放学。

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是不是孩子觉得妈咪留他在爷爷家,再从爷爷家带他回家;同样的,爷爷留他在学校,也是爷爷带他回家,比较有安全感?

其实啊!妈咪何尝不知道让爷爷带玮栋上学是最好的抉择呢?因为爷爷带他上学前,有时间让他享用一顿丰富的早餐;妈咪只能准备干粮,让他在车里吃。妈咪送他上学的话,必须提早半小时去学校,爷爷可以准时的让他上学,不用等太久。只是,妈咪自私,希望可以参与玮栋的学校生活,认识他的老师同学,既然放学,我是绝对无法参与了,那,我希望可以亲自将他送去学校,但,妈咪小小的希望,似乎也难以达成了。

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

2 3 4 Days

I have been abandoned this blog for far too long. Too tired when reach home and most of the time I have been dozed off when accompany |Voei Ton to sleep.

So many things that I have yet to jote down and I know that with every new encounters, fresh feeling, the old one will gradually lose its charm for me to jote down.

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Voei Ton second day to school is fine and I have been able to describe his personality to his class teacher. On the second day morning, I stop my car in front of the school and surprisingly, he allows his class teacher to carry him to the school. After I park my car, I go and peep on him and he is just doing fine though still no interaction with other kid. He sit on a small chair together with other kids and play the block together. After some 15 minutes, I tell myself to let go and don’t be over protective. So, I go home and wait to fetch him from school.

I go to the school again at 10.30 am as the teacher informed us that the newly enrolled children can go back slightly earlier before they familiarize with the entire environment. When I reach the school, I peep at Voei Ton again and do not want to disturb him or to let him realize that mummy is here. He is ok in the classroom, walk here and there as the children just finished their swimming class. When one the kid tells teacher that he wants to go toilet, Voei Ton go and approach the teacher and tell the teacher he wants to go to the toilet as well. I am so happy for his courageous. He is not as shy as I think.

When he steps out the classroom and realizes that I am here, he is just blushing.

Second day in school goes well. Teacher informed that he is a little timid to go the center of the swimming pool unless the teacher holds his hand. He is just sitting at the edge of the swimming pool at other time. Another good news is, teacher assures me and inform me can let Voei Ton goes to school diaper-free.

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Third day of school. Today is the first day that Voei Ton does not wear his diaper to school. I am so nervous for him and keep on reminding him that, “Son, if you want to go toilet, remember to tell teacher Sunitha. You can just tell teacher, teacher I want to go shee-shee.” Voei Ton is so quiet. I remind him along the way from home to school.

When he reached school, similar to yesterday, he happily waves goodbye to me. Again, I peep on him again to ensure that he is fine before I leave the school with a more open heart.

Today, I reach the school at 11.00 am and stand outside of his classroom without him realize until the teacher tells him. His class teacher is so excited and tells me that: “Wow, today your son is able to call my name and tell me what he wants. You know, for the first half year I teach in this class, only 1 student is able to call my full name and your son is the second one.” I am blushing with the praise that Voei Ton gets. Then, the teacher continues: “Voei Ton sang few songs in front of the class. His gesture is like he is holding a mic.” This time, I am fairly surprise. He is so shy in front of us and every time when we ask him to perform, he will just hide behind our back.

To prove what she said is true, teacher asks Voei Ton to call her but Voei Ton hides at my back instead of calling her.

I keep on thinking that are we too protective over him, hence, make him so dependant on us. He lost his courageous and confidence in front of us.

What is the way that we can encourage him more?

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On the fourth day, Voei Ton is having MC due to high fever…..haha…

While

On the fifth day, it is mummy’s turn to not feeling well…