医生说 孕期33周
胎儿大概2.5公斤重 稍微大
头向下转了
开始有些紧张
致电陪月阿姨
查问会替其他产妇陪月到几号
阿姨说 这产妇迟生
11月25日
离我的预产期 仅有两星期之差
如一切重蹈覆辙
小宝贝和哥哥一样 36周+面世
那 一切 岂不是历史重演
我又要面对头两星期没陪月的日子
你说 别怕 我在
我说 嗯 再不然 我们可以叫你妈帮忙煮
你说 父母一定责怪你没安排好一切
我不了解 动怒 生孩子有得选时间吗
如果早产 是我们能控制 我们要的吗
你说 就算如此 父母还是会有话说
我沉默了整晚
你哄我 玮栋亲我
还是驱不走我莫名地哀愁
闭着嘴巴整晚
我知道也了解 老实的你
只是实话实说
只是我自己接受不来
残酷的真实
心情低了整晚
泪也陆陆续续地留了整晚
第二天早上 一看到你的脸
眼泪又不争气地留下
你一直问我
老婆 让我懂你在想什么
打开窗帘 让阳光洒进房间里
玮栋很乖地一个人玩
试着让自己的情绪稳定下来
深呼吸 深呼吸
擦干眼泪说
我感觉到自己似乎掉进了一个旋涡
你要救我 只是一切都超乎你能力范围之外
而父母也在场 只是默默地站在一旁 袖手旁观
看着我沉下没顶
你说 我会一直拉着你 救你
如果无法将你救上来
你没顶 我也会和你一起沉下
不会弃之不顾
我们是两公婆 我们一起面对一切
听了 醒了
为什么自己那么喜欢钻牛角尖
这不是你第一次告诉我
不要依赖别人
不要期待别人帮我们做任何事
就算是父母也不例外
这是我们的家
这是我们两公婆的事
要靠自己 靠自己
对 我不是孤军奋战
我还有你 陪伴在侧
一起面对
无法预知的未来
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Saturday, October 29, 2011
Monday, December 27, 2010
圣诞礼物
我不是基督教徒，但，每一年都会收到老公送的圣诞礼物。
而今年，我却收到了两份圣诞礼物，两份都很珍贵，而第二份更是无价之宝。
第一份是老公送的ELLE手提包。鲜艳的粉红色，很甜，我很喜欢。他之所以送我这个包包，是因为我之前的包包(妈咪送的)，常割到我的手臂，而且还未放东西时就有些重了。感到意外的是，他什么时候买的呢?因为他很少在我不知道的情况下一个人逛街。原来，他是趁我考试那天，带着玮栋及一千号一起买的。。。哈哈！带着
玮栋买东西，那种情况是可想而知的。。。
而第二份礼物，是玮栋送给我的第一份礼物，也是我毕生难忘的。话说圣诞节早晨，玮栋像往常一样，七点钟就起床了。他爬起床，在我耳边，小小声的叫：“Mummy,good morning！”睡眼惺忪的我，将他抱起床，搂在怀抱里，继续赖床。谁知道，朦胧中，我竟然听见玮栋说：“Mummy, i love you!”哇！当时，我的睡意立刻消失得无影无踪，兴奋甜蜜得非笔墨可形容。
这是他第一次，在没有人教导的情况下说的。平时问他：“You love mummy not?”他会回答说：“Got。”过后教他说：“Mummy, i love you。”他都不说，只对着你笑。
这个圣诞节，真的值得感恩。
感谢造物主让我有缘的怀上了玮栋，顺利的生下他，让他健康快乐的成长。
我愿，可常伴他左右，直到永远。
而今年，我却收到了两份圣诞礼物，两份都很珍贵，而第二份更是无价之宝。
第一份是老公送的ELLE手提包。鲜艳的粉红色，很甜，我很喜欢。他之所以送我这个包包，是因为我之前的包包(妈咪送的)，常割到我的手臂，而且还未放东西时就有些重了。感到意外的是，他什么时候买的呢?因为他很少在我不知道的情况下一个人逛街。原来，他是趁我考试那天，带着玮栋及一千号一起买的。。。哈哈！带着
玮栋买东西，那种情况是可想而知的。。。
而第二份礼物，是玮栋送给我的第一份礼物，也是我毕生难忘的。话说圣诞节早晨，玮栋像往常一样，七点钟就起床了。他爬起床，在我耳边，小小声的叫：“Mummy,good morning！”睡眼惺忪的我，将他抱起床，搂在怀抱里，继续赖床。谁知道，朦胧中，我竟然听见玮栋说：“Mummy, i love you!”哇！当时，我的睡意立刻消失得无影无踪，兴奋甜蜜得非笔墨可形容。
这是他第一次，在没有人教导的情况下说的。平时问他：“You love mummy not?”他会回答说：“Got。”过后教他说：“Mummy, i love you。”他都不说，只对着你笑。
这个圣诞节，真的值得感恩。
感谢造物主让我有缘的怀上了玮栋，顺利的生下他，让他健康快乐的成长。
我愿，可常伴他左右，直到永远。
Sunday, October 10, 2010
妈妈的手
记得熏衣草夫人写过，孩子长大了，不再爱牵自己的手了，而感到无限感慨。而这，也是许多妈妈常忧虑或已意料中事。
我不记得从何时开始我再也没有握牵妈妈的手了，是长大了，不再需要妈妈的照顾呢？抑或怕羞，我也记不起来了。
我只记得在我中六时的有一晚，当我和妈妈出外买报纸时，不知何故，我会忽然间牵起妈妈的手，一起过马路。当我牵起她的手当儿，我触电了，一种很感动，很温馨，很鲜有的感觉，慢慢地涌现在我全身上下。
从那时候开始，我一再提醒自己当我有机会时，必须把握当下。每一次有机会，我必然牵起妈妈的手一起走。
如果你不会忘记牵起男女朋友的手，为什么可以忘记那一双养育你的手?为什么牵起伴侣的手是那么的理所当然，而要牵起妈妈的手是那么的千辛万苦?
如果你觉得牵手很扭捏，也许你可以考虑挽着妈妈的手腕，这，也可以让妈妈感觉到你那一份爱。
除了妈妈，挽一挽爸爸，家婆的手腕，同样的可以让他们感觉温馨。
我不记得从何时开始我再也没有握牵妈妈的手了，是长大了，不再需要妈妈的照顾呢？抑或怕羞，我也记不起来了。
我只记得在我中六时的有一晚，当我和妈妈出外买报纸时，不知何故，我会忽然间牵起妈妈的手，一起过马路。当我牵起她的手当儿，我触电了，一种很感动，很温馨，很鲜有的感觉，慢慢地涌现在我全身上下。
从那时候开始，我一再提醒自己当我有机会时，必须把握当下。每一次有机会，我必然牵起妈妈的手一起走。
如果你不会忘记牵起男女朋友的手，为什么可以忘记那一双养育你的手?为什么牵起伴侣的手是那么的理所当然，而要牵起妈妈的手是那么的千辛万苦?
如果你觉得牵手很扭捏，也许你可以考虑挽着妈妈的手腕，这，也可以让妈妈感觉到你那一份爱。
除了妈妈，挽一挽爸爸，家婆的手腕，同样的可以让他们感觉温馨。
Monday, September 27, 2010
收花记
我的老公常不按牌礼出牌。
星期五那天，迟放工，回到家已像一条奄奄一息的鱼。
一打开厕所门，精神为之一振，看清楚一点，是一束花。
哇！这惊喜还不小啊！
我这老公啊，从我们开始拍拖到现在，七年了，连同这一次，他只送过我三次花。三次都是在普通日子送的。情人节，新年，我生日，母亲节，都不送花。
问起他，怎么这样，他说：“这样才有惊喜嘛！”
嗯！也许，这样也很不错嘛！
星期五那天，迟放工，回到家已像一条奄奄一息的鱼。
一打开厕所门，精神为之一振，看清楚一点，是一束花。
哇！这惊喜还不小啊！
我这老公啊，从我们开始拍拖到现在，七年了，连同这一次，他只送过我三次花。三次都是在普通日子送的。情人节，新年，我生日，母亲节，都不送花。
问起他，怎么这样，他说：“这样才有惊喜嘛！”
嗯！也许，这样也很不错嘛！
Thursday, February 4, 2010
My Two Cents
On Bad Habits, i.e. bad temper
Do not find excuses for our shortcomings. We change and improve ourselves not because our partner wants or expects us to do so but it is US, OURSELVES want to do it. And, when it is your WANT, you will be more determine and will not feel so dreadful or like being forced by others. If u are determined to drop bad temper u will find all ways to control yourself (and i definitely knows that say is easier than done as my temper is bad also). One way u can try is when u feel u want to explode already, 抬 头 望望天 ( 或天花板 ) ， 让 自己冷静一下，想想一念天堂，一念地 狱 。 (I am trying this way now also.)
Love is sharing be it good or bad, sweet or bitter.
Some questions to you: Why do you date her? What is your opinion on her? When you are together with her, did u have any plan? Did u have any vision on both of your future? Did u share with her?
She is an adult (believe it or not? She is 23 years old now) and need to be treated as an adult. As she always has been treated like a child by all of us (mum and all sisters), i think deep in her heart, she hopes her BF treats her as an adult and let her feel she is useful and important and can be a pillar for you to rely on when you need her.
It is a correct way for not to let the elderly, like parents, sisters and brothers to worry about us but this does not apply to our partner. For a healthy relationship, it needs to be “laugh and cry together, share the fruits and bear the risks together, enjoy the good times and suffer the bad times together” and most importantly “learn and grow together”.
To me, sharing a problem does not necessary mean will burden your partner if you can give them confidence and assurance that you can manage it. Sharing thoughts and idea is also a way to reflect our respect to our partner.
To love someone, you need to love yourself first.
This is cruel but true. I learnt this in hard way from san jie fu. Get yourself back in shape first, please. Live on, move on, with or without her. Don’t attempt to win back love by earning her sympathy. This will not last long and you may feel revengeful to her in future. Focus on your career for the moment and try to show your improvement to her over time – may be turn to her as a friend first if this is an easier way to approach her. Since both of you have given this relationship a chance before, if it does not work out now, you shall move on. This may not a tragedy but an opportunity for you.
Lastly, a question for you to really think on, are you certain that she is the ONE for you?
A relationship will not always be a smooth sailing trip, it needs to go through thunderstorm and rough waves to make it stronger and for you to really appreciate it.
Do not find excuses for our shortcomings. We change and improve ourselves not because our partner wants or expects us to do so but it is US, OURSELVES want to do it. And, when it is your WANT, you will be more determine and will not feel so dreadful or like being forced by others. If u are determined to drop bad temper u will find all ways to control yourself (and i definitely knows that say is easier than done as my temper is bad also). One way u can try is when u feel u want to explode already, 抬 头 望望天 ( 或天花板 ) ， 让 自己冷静一下，想想一念天堂，一念地 狱 。 (I am trying this way now also.)
Love is sharing be it good or bad, sweet or bitter.
Some questions to you: Why do you date her? What is your opinion on her? When you are together with her, did u have any plan? Did u have any vision on both of your future? Did u share with her?
She is an adult (believe it or not? She is 23 years old now) and need to be treated as an adult. As she always has been treated like a child by all of us (mum and all sisters), i think deep in her heart, she hopes her BF treats her as an adult and let her feel she is useful and important and can be a pillar for you to rely on when you need her.
It is a correct way for not to let the elderly, like parents, sisters and brothers to worry about us but this does not apply to our partner. For a healthy relationship, it needs to be “laugh and cry together, share the fruits and bear the risks together, enjoy the good times and suffer the bad times together” and most importantly “learn and grow together”.
To me, sharing a problem does not necessary mean will burden your partner if you can give them confidence and assurance that you can manage it. Sharing thoughts and idea is also a way to reflect our respect to our partner.
To love someone, you need to love yourself first.
This is cruel but true. I learnt this in hard way from san jie fu. Get yourself back in shape first, please. Live on, move on, with or without her. Don’t attempt to win back love by earning her sympathy. This will not last long and you may feel revengeful to her in future. Focus on your career for the moment and try to show your improvement to her over time – may be turn to her as a friend first if this is an easier way to approach her. Since both of you have given this relationship a chance before, if it does not work out now, you shall move on. This may not a tragedy but an opportunity for you.
Lastly, a question for you to really think on, are you certain that she is the ONE for you?
A relationship will not always be a smooth sailing trip, it needs to go through thunderstorm and rough waves to make it stronger and for you to really appreciate it.
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