驾驶牢骚

自从搬到柔佛后，每天驾驶行程就从短短的三十分钟延长至一小时。在吉隆坡驾惯了高速公路，在这里真是叫苦连天。

从家里到家公家婆家再到公司，一路经过六个交通灯，一段鼎鼎大名的巴西古当高速公路。虽说是高速公路却只有两条车道，而且一路坑坑洼洼，无数大罗厘，想超速也难。=(

柔佛府的道路也很奇怪，从两条车道突然会变成四条车道，再从四条又变回两条车道。所以有时候你可以飞车飞到爽爽，有时候却像只老乌龟。

这里有很多老aunty uncle驾车，他们都不管有车没车，想转出来就立刻转，要不然就转了过后停了五秒才继续行使，如果你驾快一点，就会撞上了。有很多时候，他们行使速度只有20km/h或30km/h。

这里也有很多人在大路边卖水果，卖早餐。。。很多没头没脑的人，不管后面有车没车，会忽然间将车一停，就下车了。车子就停在路中央。

那只有两条车道的巴西古当高速，也是考验我耐性和口德的地方。车祸，塞车，我没话说。但是，有时候，罗厘停在路旁(非车道)休息，也会变成塞车。唉！请大家不要这样八卦吧！更有时候，那些不超车，驾驶速度不快不慢，他车前没车，就是不让你超他的司机，更让我$^&&%&$##&*(。。。也有一些时候，它却无端端塞车了。
为什么我说无端端呢？因为就是没有理由的塞车呀？？？！！！

早上的我，需要经过一条只有一条车道的路。这里的驾驶学院，非常喜欢挑战他们的学徒，常常在早上繁忙时间让他们的学徒，徐徐上路，让后面慢慢地的形成一条可观的车龙。在不然，就是大大架地铲泥机车，摇摇摆摆地行驶，让你急得像热锅里的蚂蚁却逃不了。

这里的交警，也很聪明，常在早上人家赶着上班或下午敢着回家时设路障，让大家平白无故的将时间浪费在车里。

在这里驾车，我只能说，如果你很有规矩地驾车，你便必须花更多的时间在路上。
我插队，因为司机前有空位；我在左边的车道超车，因为我没办法。请谅解哦！

Not walking yet?!

My boy is now 15 months ++ old but still refuse to walk by himself. He can walk very well when we hold one of his little hands. He can even direct us the place he wants to go. He can walk pretty quickly when we hold his hand.

We have tried to dupe him to walk by himself and he succeeded. When his papa held his hand, I stood a distance from him and he walked towards me. He has walked in total eight steps (four steps each time) all by himself without us supporting him. When, he finally realized our trick, he stopped walking and held his papa’s pants tightly. I refused to give in and stood still there. He, too, refused to continue walk without support. He looked at us with pity eyes and look around his surrounding. After a few minutes of hesitant from both sides, he found his solution to walk towards me eventually.

He held his papa’s pants with one hand when he tried to put his hand on the see saw that he needs to put effort to reach on. When he finally get hold on the see saw, he walked to me by holding the see saw. I can’t stop cuddling and hugging him when he reached me. Both hubby and myself were surprised by his inspiration.

My mum once told me that toddle will start to walk automatically when they get ready but I still cannot stop hoping that he can walk independently as soon as possible.

I know that it is good for him to want to hold our hand to go to the direction he wants instead of running here and there all by himself and we need to chase after him but I can’t stop hoping him can run around by himself.

I am determining to find some ideas on line to encourage him walking independently. When I browsed through the internet, I found that many children also only can walk when they reached 16 months, 20 months some even at 22 months. I have a mix feeling after reading these.

However, my heart is enlighten and I felt so impressed and start to let go my worries after i read the following quote by a parent from Berkeley Parents Network about late walker:

“maybe the other parents have never heard this is common among genius children. He may be a profound philosopher more into thinking and internal processes rather than running/ doing physical stuff. I would guess others' hold more judgment on boys for this trait, as boys are pushed toward sports, etc. from earlier on than girls, but certainly our world needs boys and men who are capable of deep thinking.... don't know what to do about others' rudeness but once you become more assured and confident that he IS normal and /or extraordinary the comments may roll off more easily.... good luck with your wonder boy. anon.”

Hehe..this is so good right? Wink..wink…

父母亲

近日，我的表姐转发了一封电邮于我，题目为“CHIAO PO & PARENT”。我以为又是一封搞笑的文件，因我将题目翻译为“娇婆与父母”。

打开电邮一看，原来是“焦波与父母”。这是个Power Point Presentation，里面全是以照片记载着焦波父母从六十八岁到人生尽头生活点滴。

看完这个电邮，我有些感触，也有些内疚。

我们一直以来都以孩子为中心，孩子的成长点滴，一举一动，我们都希望不曾错过，希望可以利用相机留著那珍贵的时刻。可是，我们可曾想过将父母平日的点滴，风采留下?焦波说的对，当父母百年归天时，看着派下来的照片，就好像父母还活着。此时此刻，我想起了我的母亲煮饭时的神态，看报纸的表情，我告诉自己，当我现在有机会，我会好好把握。

与你共勉之。